DTR…umm..I didn’t get a specific definition


Work has been crazy so when my sweet new guy offered a night in I new I had to take it! Plus, I felt a little funny how things ended between us last time we hung out (as in my boss went crazy on me). So I come over and we are watching movies and just casually talking/catching up when he says “okay lets go lay down I’m tired.” I give him this confused look because he just assumed I was staying over and I haven’t really said how I was feeling. Pause.

I have been trying to figure out this conversation in my head because I have no clue what path this relationship is on. A couple of weeks ago he wanted to make us sexually exclusive so we did, but now I’m just wondering if this is ever going to go any where…am I wasting my time….etc…time to DTR.

So I said “Oh I’m sorry I’ll leave & let you get some rest.” He was completely caught off guard and could tell something was bothering me. He asked me what is wrong and why I’ve been acting weird, so I just came out with it!

“I need to know if what we have is going anywhere. I am not going to keep making myself exclusive to you if you are not doing the same and if this relationship isn’t going anywhere.”

He replies: “I am exclusive to you and am not looking to talk to anyone else nor do I want to. I am really focused on my career right now so I feel like I make you upset because I cannot give you the time and attention that your used to receiving. But I do like the direction this is taking us although I don’t know where it’s going to go. You don’t know where your job is going to take you in a few months and I don’t want to rush anything. And the worse thing you could do stay here because of me. I like you a lot and I want you to trust me, I am a good guy.”

Sooooo I am a happy I guess. All that coming from a guy who is deathly afraid of commitment and hasn’t had a girlfriend longer than 6 months..I’ll take it! But I guess he technically didn’t define the relationship? or did he?




2 thoughts on “DTR…umm..I didn’t get a specific definition

  1. Ewwwwww I DESPISE men like this. If they want you they WANT you. You should be freaking cherished…you’re a damn prize. No one is perfect, I get that…but this guy isn’t worth your time if he’s not going to make you a priority. …..yikes…that was kind of a pushy rant. Just a view from the gallery though!

  2. Take it from a man: he’s not looking for a relationship, he’s looking for a friend with benefits. If you’re cool with that, then fine. Otherwise I agree with Blondie’s comments above.

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